Ties The Knot

Finally... tied the knot.

2009-01-18T17:02:00.000-08:00

Hai all,

wahh.. hari ni baru dapat buka blog, pheww.

I am a bit late updating my blog, well better late than never la kan... Hehhee... dah jadi missus ni most of my free time will be with Soulmate, or housework.

Hmm.... housework and chores, aiyahhh.. for someone who is too lazy to wash her own cloth, I have to wash 2 sets nowadays, breakfast at office has change to breakfast at home...

Anyway, i am blissfully happy now... to my happily ever after. It has been a long journey. The blog is written as diary for my path on getting married, the good experience, the bad one or funny experiences.

Readers that are getting married themselves, Good luck! and enjoy your journey, your very own trip-to-bliss. Singletons, do enjoy being single (and not having to worried about mak andam/ fotog/ duit-duit-duit!!) and 'smug-married' (*ahemm.... kita enjoy!) hahahhaa.....

Haa.... Alhamdulillah, syukur kepadanya, we are married. I hope my marriage will forever be bless by Him, hopefully we will stay together sampai bila-bila and one day have children and granchildren... (hihihih) InsyaAllah, with all your prayers and well wishes.

I will leave this blog just as the way it is. And remove it one fine day.... But frett not, I will continure reading your blogs too.

Happy new year 2009 everyone, semoga segala azam dan cita2 untuk tahun baru nanti tercapai dan sentiasa diberkatiNya.

Thank you.

Pendaftaran nikah, tsk.. tsk...

2009-01-04T23:30:00.000-08:00

It's Monday and I'm on EL. Hehhehe....

Hmm... actually i'm taking EL to settle the nikah thingy. Tok Kadi called last week to inform that he cannot nikahkan I at home. Yes, he CANNOT nikahkan. How bad was that?

His reason was... I am supposed to register under Shah Alam, not Klang. So he cannot enter into other's teritory.

Ok, but the real story was, i have went to Shah Alam to do the registration. The Officer have a look at my IC then said, "Awak kena register kat Pejabat Agama Klang, bukan sini". Ok fine, so yadda yadda i settle my registration at Klang and the Klang's Officer did not question me. And so i thought settle la kan?

But last week Tok Kadi called and conveyed the bad news. I was so suprised! and thought, ini dugaan from Tuhan.

So on Friday i was busy calling-calling. Asking my ustaz of kursus kahwin, calling pejabat agama and so and so. long story cut short, this morning i managed to iron out the issue and....
I AM GETTING MARRIED THIS SATURDAY AT HOME!! Yahuuu... hahaha :D

So to celebrate that, i went to Bukit Raja for shopping and bought myself new pair of jeans... hiasan2 for the wedding, shoes for my sis, story books and, a laundry basket. Yelar... I'm staying with my mom after this. Takkan baju masih nak mak tolong basuh.. eheh. My new resolutions to be a good wife lar ni.

Ohh.. I am such a goody-goody.. **hikss...

A lot have been done last weekend, baju nikah dah siap, all those knick-knacks and favors dah beli dah. Tomorrow i'm still working and the day after. Then Soulmate and I will be on leave until next week's Wednesday.

Future updates, this Thursday Soulmate and I nak pergi fitting baju untuk my reception nanti and terus angkat baju tu nanti. Friday, collect cuppies, sirih junjung, fruits and go for henna. Pelamin also akan dipasang on Friday.

Saturday? Can't wait for that special day :)

Guess what?

2009-01-02T20:45:00.000-08:00

Baju nikah dah siap. Yippie!!! Do the chicken dance :D Hohoho...

From Saigon with love

2008-12-31T20:58:00.000-08:00

I'm not in the mood because for trillions time of promises my nikah dress is not ready yet. sigh. sigh. sigh. This time Mrs Tailor promises Friday evening. I am not putting any hope. Let's wait and see.

On top of that i'm experiencing mood swing. Could be PMS. My menstrual cycle is unpredictable... so i guess it will be anytime soon. Soulmate dah kena 'hentam' banyak kali because of this syndrom. and he never understands it, i did not do it on purpose. Blame the hormone. I AM SO SORRY DEAR, seriously. huuu, praying hard it won't come out on the wedding day itself. please. please. please...

Anyway, today is 1st January 2009. I have no plan for outing.. just laze at home. Then my aunt drop by. She just came back from Saigon and she bought me goodies for the wedding.

*Bags for guest on the akad nikah day... all the way from Vietnam. *

Mak Long also bought me something from Saigon. A lovely embroided telekung.

On top of that, Achik also brought along gifts for the VIPs. Her friends made them. Very nice i would say... sayang nak give away, hehhehe :p

And the best part, i have bought my own pair of wedding shoes. hehhehe... me likey! Thou it burn a hole in my pocket, tsk.. tsk... i'm truly satisfied. The hill got designs like.. erm, erm, i dunno how to explain lar. oh well, and the color matched perfectly with my skin tone... and wedding dress of course. but the pic is a bit dark.. my bad, forgot to snap it under the light :p

2008-12-31T08:10:00.000-08:00

HaPPy nEw yEar 2009!!!

Count down begins.... 10 Days from today.

Inviting Ex?

2008-12-31T07:50:00.000-08:00

Mom was asking whether i invite my ex to my wedding.

HELL NO!

Of course you don't invite an ex boyfriend to the wedding. I can't imagine how would i feel if Soulmate invited his ex girlfriend. Well... there i one. They are merely friends. But... well ya, it depends on your friendship with the person. if there is ANY awkwardness between you two, then no. no offense is meant by saying no. it's a case by case situation. That was just my opinion. if you all are cool with it then invite him. if not no biggie. hehhehe...

Personally, no matter how good my life is and how happy I am my ex was a dick and I want to be surrounded by family and people I care about at my wedding. That would exclude him :p

In less than 2 weeks...

2008-12-31T07:32:00.000-08:00

My singledom will be over.

How would I describe what I'm feeling right now? Honestly, rather listless. I don't know if you could attribute it to having all the energy put into preparing for the wedding, then feeling a close to an anti-climax as the date nears. But I'm sure things will be different in the coming days.

This is how i feel....

2008-12-29T07:13:00.000-08:00

... because the tailor did not meet the deadline.

In 2 weeks update

2008-12-25T17:51:00.000-08:00

Oh well... i promised this weekend but this morning was slammed. Other than that, it was a *dull* day. My co-workers and I were talking about it. Our office is so cyclical, and I love being busy, but when we have a lull for a few days, it's like "ok, what to do." Instead of cleaning off my desk, I am posting. Heehehe...

I can't believe that it's almost wedding time. When Soulmate and I set a date somewhere in July this year, I felt I had all the time in the world to get everything planned. Fast forward nearly 5 months - most things are done, but minor details have to be finalized.

The number one priority for today is finishing invitations which were going in the mail today, but won't go until Monday... but Monday is public hol.. so perhaps Tuesday. The invitations have reach quota but more people are asking about my wedding... huhuhu~ hardly to invite everyone. sigh. They been asking like, "Mr A is asking about his card, don't u invite him too?" and "Mr B kecik hati ko tak jemput dia" and ring ring "Hey i heard u are getting married, see i can smell it from far, tak jemput pun i" and also "Can i ask Mrs C (not invited) to come with me, did u invite her as well?" double sigh. I tried to slash most of the numbers but it kept on growing. Yaiks!

Anyway, tomorrow, Soulmate and I are going to see dentist. We planned to do scalling. Ever thought of having that in wedding plan? Hahhaha... Sunday perhaps we'll be going to Jln Masjid India... nak beli songkok. I'm also planning to have a visit to Butik Ariani, maybe can get nicer scarf for solemnization.

Monday is public hol for Awal Muharram... planning to spare time with family... oh goodie me :) well, actually i planned to polish dulang hantaran which i borrowed from aunty... and maybe after that kemas - kemas bilik, can start rearrage cloth into new wardrobe.

30th and 31st - on leave. Yippie!!!

30th, have set an appointment for facial. Soulmate is working on that day. Thinking of coming to KL and buy sweets for kiddies... nearby office has this wholesale shop selling all kind of sweets, choc.. basically junk food la. And maybe i'll drop by Wedding City to get that lovely silver case as gifts to VVIP. Then can have it engrave at Central Market... IF i have the time.

1st January... New Year! Soulmate's family and mine are meeting with the wedding caterer to get all of the ceremony details worked out. Last weekend, I finally decided on vocal pieces for the wedding. I've known preludes, recessional music for months, but the songs that will be played have been a harder decision. You Are My Everything is one of my absolute favorite pieces of music. ever. I have been listening to it probably a dozen times, so, in addition to being beautiful, it's also special to me.

Mental checklist, must confirm with Cousin about kompang and emcee.

Ok, stop here. Nak join colleagues makan pulut kuning in pantry. Hehehee...

Quick updates

2008-12-24T22:39:00.000-08:00

I apologize for lack of interesting posts this week. It's crazy. I'll try to make it up to you this weekend. I promise. :)

Oh before that, MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

Tension

2008-12-16T06:52:00.000-08:00

Balik keje petang tadi, my mom sampaikan beberapa bad news:

1. Baju nikah dah 2 weeks lambat. So happen the tailor A is Aunty's sister. She said, belum potong kain pun lagi!

2. Tailor B suppose to jahit curtain bilik pengantin and my siblings's baju for khatam Quran. When my mom called, she told her that she's suffering from morning sickness. Hence nothing has been done yet.

3. Bridal owner suppose to call to inform about my dress. Silence.

4. Marhaban group request to be jemput and hantar after the event. Berapa kali my mom nak ulang - alik? There are 30 of them, for God sake!

5. Bayaran dewan belum settle. The person in charge kept on giving excuse not in office.

Urggghhhh!! Tertekan. Tertekan. TERTEKAN!!!

twilight

2008-12-13T08:23:00.000-08:00

When you can live forever, what do you live for?

Dear Soulmate,

Thank you for running from Cineleisure to One Utama... to buy me Twilight's ticket. I still like Robbert Pattinson, no matter what u said after the muvee. Hahaha...

I have opened my heart

2008-12-12T06:01:00.000-08:00

I accidentally bumped into my ex-bf pic while browsing into friend's social network.

It's been a while since i saw him. He's still still single but not available. It hit me suddenly, does he know i'm getting married? And if he does, how does it feel?

Suddenly i have this strange kind of feeling. I don't know how to describe it. It's not like i-want-you-back or i-miss-you. Neither haha-padan muka-aku kahwin dulu. The feeling is like....

urgh, so hard to explain!

I just stare at his picture. No expression.. numb.

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They said "Good endings make good beginnings".

I read in Mars & Venus on a Date, When we end a relationship feeling either resentful or guilty, it is much harder to move on to find a person who is right for you. Quite often, when a relationship ends, we may feel angry that our partner let us down or didn't fullfill our expectations. Women most commonly feel that they gave a lot to relationship and they didn't get what they needed in return. As a result, they feel resentful. Men, on the other hand, tend to feel more quilt. They feel bad that the relationship didn't turn out well and guilty if their partner felt unfullfilled. It can also be the other way around. In either case, the result is the same. We end a relationship with a closed heart.

....And now, it is 4 more weeks before my big day :) hehehe... I can't be more happy than this. I guess all the strange feeling is because i'm questioning myself. How can i love this guy 5 years ago and now feel nothing for him?

The answer?

I have opened my heart :)

Wedding Card

2008-12-12T05:37:00.000-08:00

Ms Michigan: Beb, congrats ;) Aku suka kad kawin ko. Cun! Siap nama penuh bertaip yg x thn tuh :p

Ms Ilusm: Oh welcome dear. Dtg tau nanti. Hehe :)

Ms Michigan: Itu suda musti! :)

*Me happy :D*

Urusan di PAID

2008-12-12T05:08:00.000-08:00

Today i spent another whole day for pendaftaran nikah.

After settle dengan Tok Kadi, kena plak hantar form ke Pejabat Agama Islam Daerah (PAID) Klang. This time dah tak sesat, because i've been here before to collect the forms. Tapi kali ni, i noticed one thing different about Klang. The road. Most of the road dah jadi sehala. Hmm.. mungkin strategic planning to reduce the traffic jam.

Anyway, urusan di PAID sangatlah membosankan. The should improve the system. Seriously.

Here how it goes:

Ambil form di PAID --> Pegi klinik kesihatan untuk HIV test --> Jumpa Tok Kadi untuk tanda tangan--> Kembali ke PAID --> tunggu di kaunter tanpa no. giliran for them to sign the form --> Naik tingkat atas, amik nombor --> jumpa Ustaz untuk sign kebenaran berkahwin --> turun balik ke kaunter untuk tunggu nama dipanggil for surat kebenaran berkahwin --> jumpa balik Tok Kadi untuk final check --> akad nikah berlangsung --> return surat nikah sementara untuk dapatkan surat nikah sebenar.

Kalau boleh nak draw swim lane diagram to demonstrate how terrible the system was, and how they can improve it.

Shoe stories

2008-12-11T08:27:00.000-08:00

Haritu masa pegi confirm bridal package, sajer2 tanya what kind of shoes that they will provide for me.

The shoes was nice (ada label Man Kajang lagi tau, hehhhe..) but my typical problem, NO SIZE!! huhuhu... It's not like i'm in size 9 or what. I'm in size 7. Ok lah tu kan? i'm neither petite nor giant, i sedang-sedang aja... why can't they make shoes in size 7?? why why? ok i'm over reacting. Better stop.

On a bright side...

..i'm glad that i asked about the shoes. I can't imagine, 2 more days and i just realized that the shoes does not fit in? OMG... nightmare. The wedding shoes seem to be one of the most neglected items in the wedding wear list. Leaving footwear to the last minute might cost me blisters and discomfort.

Now i have to decide on a desired style and design for my footwear. Maybe this weekend boleh ajak Soulmate survey after watching muvee. Shopping lagi? Me likey :D ngehhehe..

Daily updates

2008-12-11T08:08:00.000-08:00

Good news is petang tadi dah settle pendaftaran nikah.

Went to meet the Penolong Pendaftar Nikah together with Granpa, Sis's BF and Sis's BF's friend and my bro. I'm glad everything berjalan lancar... except that i was a bit dissapointed because tak dapat jalankan akad nikah on planned time. Supposedly nak buat after Asar, but since someone else dah book that slot, terpaksa awalkan 2 jam because tanak nikah kat masjid.

Ye. Saya nak nikah kat rumah, tanak kat masjid.

And as at todate, i have decided to order cupcakes from Wondermilk. Reason why is because:

1) Malas nak pick up order from a place yg sangat jauh dari rumah.
2) Fobia after order online. Taste does not meet my expectation.
3) Bengang dengan some online baker yang tak reti nak check their email/reply.

*Source from Wondermilk website*

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2008-12-09T08:02:00.000-08:00

This is what i do... when i'm not planning for my wedding,
and not busy with the wedding preparations.

Nak berseri?

2008-12-09T07:49:00.000-08:00

Sekarang dah pandai minum innershine prune essence, hehhehe...

Kat botol ni tulis, "radiant beauty comes from good wellness within".

Oh well... hopefully berseri la masa hari kahwin nanti kan? :p

My sincere wish...

2008-12-08T13:35:00.000-08:00

Salam Aidiladha
kepada semua muslimin dan muslimat
&
Salam Takziah
buat ahli keluarga tragedi tanah runtuh
Bukit Antarabangsa.

Pre-family holiday

2008-12-07T05:54:00.000-08:00

Soulmate and my family went to Fraser's Hill for family vacation.

"A princess bride personality test!"

2008-12-04T10:31:00.000-08:00

1. OK... Easy questions first... Do you have any distinguishing bodily features?

I have some old facial scarring...

2. Where do you live?

That's my little secret!

3. Describe the person closest to you...

Do I have to name just one?

4. What is your biggest vice?

An opportunity to make fun of somebody.

5. OK, word association time... What do you first think of when I say the word 'Humperdinck'...?

It makes me laugh! 'Humperdinck, humperdinck, humperdinck humperdinck!!!' Ha ha ha ha!!

6. And how about the words 'Rodents of unusual size'?

Terrifying, simply terrifying!

7. And the words 'true love'...?

Love, love, like a dove, surely sent from heaven above!

8. Now for some hypothetical situations... You are challenged to a test of wits.. there are two glasses of wine and your challenger has put iocane powder (one of the deadliest substances known to man) in one of them. The challenge ends when you both drink

I'd drink either, I've already thought ahead and spent the last few years building up an immunity to Iocane powder.

9. Next, You are half dead, can barely stand and your true love is marrying another tonight. The castle where the wedding is being held is guarded by 1000 men. What do you do?

My true love, like me, would rather die than marry another!

10. Interesting.... Finally, how would you like to be remembered after you die?

As a beautiful person who would rather die than live without love.

Submit.

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YOUR RESULT

You are Buttercup, your beauty is beyond compare and only marred by your misery. You live your life hoping for the return of your one and only true love. Until then you will continue to lament but you may marry someone else to pass the time!

Family meeting

2008-12-04T09:16:00.000-08:00

Last night we all sat down and had a family meeting at Soulmate's house in KD.

Oh how time flies... tinggal se-bulan jer lagi. Life is busy and getting busier all the time, kan? And so our mother are VERY nervous + worry towards the big day. So many things to prepare yet so little time. I was glad that Soulmate's mother called for a meeting to discuss on the wedding details.

We arrived around 8:30 pm. This is my family's second meeting with Soulmate's family after the merisik ceremony somewhere around July this year. So meeting starts by discussing the akad nikah.. how many people should they bring along, what time should they arrive, how should the engagement ceremony be, where are we going to held the akad nikah, what is our plan B, how many dulang hantaran as at todate.

And the discussion continues to next day event which is the kenduri. Siapa akan iringi pengantin, siapa akan duduk dengan pengantin di meja beradab, siapa akan jadi event manager, siapa akan jadi mc, tukang baca doa, receptionist, penunjuk jalan, tukang bagi bunga telur, siapa akan pantau buffet station, etc etc etc...

Some of you yang masih new to this blog mungkin tertanya. Kenapa lak pihak lelaki sebok nak tau persiapan belah perempuan? Actually Soulmate and I plan to combine receptions. or in other words, two events at one time. Kalau boleh dikira macam tu la.

Soulmate and I lebih banyak mendengar daripada bersuara. Mungkin kami terkejut, because we did not expect that kind of details. Oh yeah, wedding bukan benda main-main. Serious business indeed.

I was glad certain issues were ironed out. Tinggal lagi sikit2 nak kena decide one day before the kenduri itself.

Now I can imagine 2 days before the big day.. mesti huru hara. Relatives start coming, nak kena amik baju from bridal + last fitting, pakai henna that night, pick up cake + sirih junjung + gubah hantaran buah, pasang langsir, tukar cadar baru, kemas rumah, bubuh telur pada bunga telur, masak untuk akad nikah.

Oh banyak nyer...

Stressful job

2008-12-02T09:20:00.000-08:00

OK, so perhaps i should have realized that monthly reporting is on the 7th. And that is a very busy day of the month, and my team only have few staff.

I told them i'm getting married on the 10th, and i have to say, they were very understanding but even so, they cannot fit me in right at that moment. They asked if i could possibly start to take leave two days before the wedding.

Gosh, how are you supposed to plan a wedding and have a job at the same time?!

Cake dilemma

2008-12-02T09:06:00.000-08:00

To be honest, I don't really like fondant cake. Actually all that fruitcake and marzipan and icing like blocks of chalks makes me feel a bit sick.

Even so, my mouth can't help watering as I visited the cake studio, today. It's big and light, with huge windows and the sweetest, most delicious sugary - buttery smell wafting through the air.

Ok, mom is right. I can't dither anymore. I have to decide.

I'm just going to have to do this logically. Work out the pros and cons, weigh them all up and make a rational decision. Right. Let's go.

For Carrot Cake

1. I will like it
2. Soulmate will like it
3. It will be a yummy wedding cake

For Fondant Cake

1. I get to have the most lovely wedding cake in the world.

hmm, it isn't any easier. In fact, it's harder because it's thrusting the dilemma right in my face, instead of where i want it, which is in a little box at the back of my mind where i don't have to look at it.

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Family Meeting

2008-12-01T10:38:00.000-08:00

So, yeah... this Thursday will be family meeting at Soulmate's house.

My mom, uncle and cousin will be there. Need to check in all the vendors and make sure that everything is in place and according to plan.

Flipping the calendar... gulp, 1 month ++ before the big day.
Dah nak dekat dah..

Maybe Soulmate and I will be there also. Just to make sure we're in the loop :)

Finally...

2008-12-01T10:00:00.000-08:00

.. it's time to send out invitation cards!

I am sending the cards by stages. Those who received, i am glad u did :)

Those who do not, i purposely memang tanak bagi kat korang. Hahhaha... just kidding, i still have a handful of cards to be posted. And also cards to be given by hand.

See? I'm not that bad tau...

cheers~

Mykad Renewal

2008-12-01T04:53:00.000-08:00

I renew my IC today, or precisely change of address.

It is something i have to do. The hassle in finding the person to acknowledge the 'borang pengesahan mastautin', urghh sangat leceh. I just move to this new residential area. So masih unfamiliar with the place + tak berapa kenal lagi orang2 di sini. Lagi senang renew jer IC.

Today renewal experience taught me a precious lesson, that is never do the IC renewal during school holidays. The queue at the Putrajaya Jabatan Pendaftaran Negara was so long. really.

Anyway, i am glad that the IC renewal process has been improved tremendously. It took me only 1 day to get my new IC. I would recommend people to get their IC done or renewed at Putrajaya, Jabatan Pendaftaran Negara. Malaysia BOLEH! eceh, promote plak. hehhehe...

Which cake?

2008-12-01T00:02:00.000-08:00

I'm on browsing mood as to which and what cake to make into hantaran. still can't decide, iskh.. decision decision..

This one ok tak? My theme would be baby blue, hence i'm thinking of switching the white flower to soft blue.. and blue ribbon to follow the theme.

Nabila Huda Majlis Khatam Quran

2008-11-30T22:00:00.000-08:00

This morning received email from Adan Photography. i love their work. suka sangat sampai subscribe email from them.

They email me gambar eksklusif dan terbaru, sekitar Majlis Khatam Quran, Nabila Huda.

I'm having majlis khatam Quran also in the morning, before akad nikah. Takutnyer nak mengaji depan orang ramai... hopefully i don't get nervous breakdown. hopefuly.

Finding doorgift for the VIS

2008-11-30T02:27:00.000-08:00

Ok. Don't panic. The answer will come to me any minute. i just have to think hard about what to get for the VIS (very important sponsor).

My mom and i went to PKNS last Friday. My eyes rests on a beautiful carved 'wood', complete with frame. Now, that would make a perfect wedding doorgift. I can just see it : the frame hanging on the wall of their living hall. it'll be all lovely and domestic and heartwarming, and everytime they look at it they'll think of me and Soulmate.

Perhaps could even have it engraved, "Thank you from Miss Ilusm and Soulmate." and a little poem maybe.

Hmm.. mind you, engraving is quite expensive. I'd better check out how much it would all come to.

Welcome to my new blog

2008-11-30T02:14:00.000-08:00

My previous blog was my baby.. but due to some personal issue, the blog has been removed.. kinda sad but hey, my big day is just around the corner. What better than that? hehhehe.. :)

oh well, this blog it's not ready yet but I'm working on it.